Children, Family, Things I Can

90. Things I Can Keep: My Promise

  We climb into bed at 7:45pm for the sole purpose of extra cuddles. After two chapters in the thawing forest of Narnia, I close the book and tuck myself around him. He scoots over and pulls my arm around his middle. We slip into our rhythm. Light and steady, whisper and pulse, we course… Continue reading 90. Things I Can Keep: My Promise

Determination, Things I Can

89. Things I Can Seal: The Deal

The car I drive is the first I bought and the third I’ve owned. In 2011 when it seemed to breathe its last, I chose to keep it on the road. Here is that story. It is pushing 16 years now and finally failed its emissions test, revealing fatal injuries deep in the machine. The… Continue reading 89. Things I Can Seal: The Deal

community, neighborhood, Things I Can

88. Things I Can Offer: A Playdate

My doppleganger lives at the opposite end of the hall. She is also a single working mom with a little boy, a squealing pup, and a sort-of-manageable custody arrangement. We both teach. We both have moms in the area who help us out but we both still struggle with childcare and doggy care. We both… Continue reading 88. Things I Can Offer: A Playdate

Brain, Things I Can, Writing

87. Things I Can Exchange: Not for Is

Volunteers in the study were asked to hold a grip sensor as they heard a variety of verbs related to manual actions, like ‘throw’ or ‘scratch’, in different sentence structures. The researchers observed a significant increase in the strength of participants’ grip when words were presented in an affirmative sentence, but no such reaction when… Continue reading 87. Things I Can Exchange: Not for Is

Change, Poetry, Relationships, Things I Can

86. Things I Can Clear: The Haze

Recovery taught mindset before mindfulness was a word. For today, the glass is the eye. For today, shrug and surrender. The shoulder gives way and even grief recedes. See now where three cranes have paused in this brown place we forgot to consecrate, each half gripping its parcel of terrain, half clutching the sky. We… Continue reading 86. Things I Can Clear: The Haze

Change, Poetry, Relationships, Things I Can

85. Things I Can Hold: The Promise

Honeysuckle Tag Months after the last blossom wilts and lets go, a tendril of scent unfurls among the parched weeds and knotted shrubs edging the broken road. Only at night the perfume steals out to stretch its cramped wings and lean into the hum of cricket’s legs and streetlamps. It will be gone by sunrise,… Continue reading 85. Things I Can Hold: The Promise

Family, Home, Mindfulness, Things I Can

84. Things I Can Snap: The Family Photo

. . . and they found a certain contentment, living more or less happily ever after, which is what “now” is while one’s in it. – From Robert Coover’s “The Frog Prince” I lay flat on the stained carpet, felled by a muscle spasm with diamond-tipped talons. My boy, stung pink with sun, is sprawled… Continue reading 84. Things I Can Snap: The Family Photo

Creativity, Relationships, Things I Can

83. Things I Can Rescue: The Vanishing Weekend

The used car quest was ultimately unsuccessful. One gains insight nonetheless. It’s useful to practice haggling, for example, even if the other party refuses to engage participate. Also, it pays to notice tires. I am back home and wilting on the couch. Beside me is a man whose company today qualifies him for sainthood. On… Continue reading 83. Things I Can Rescue: The Vanishing Weekend

Brain, Things I Can

82. Things I Can Watch: Dream Reels from the Projection Booth

Sleep. . . knits up the raveled sleave of care.   – From Shakespeare’s Macbeth, Act 2, Scene 2 I follow him along the circumference of the earth. The globe bends under us. A rusted iron chain strewn out loose on the ground guides our hands, our feet. We walk near the shore then into… Continue reading 82. Things I Can Watch: Dream Reels from the Projection Booth

Career, Change, Choices

81. Things I Can Celebrate: Five Years

August 23, 2010: first day on the job. This was another shift in the surge between a tidal wave of beginnings and a fierce undertow of endings. Landing a position at a university — one that had deigned to give me a graduate degree before I took off on a fateful, cross-country marriage odyssey —… Continue reading 81. Things I Can Celebrate: Five Years