Lunch is an hour. And it’s a break.
Sacred cows no more.
Lunch hour goes.
(Not the food part. I’m too fond of my fuel.)
Today the forecast was 47 degrees and wet. I trotted off to work in a thin sheath of a raincoat. At 5:30, I stepped out into wind that cut like knives. My neck shrieked. The puddles had turned to ice. Each dark step to the metro scoured my skin.
During the intervening 8-1/2 hours walled in by steel and focus, temperatures plummeted and dragged the sky down with them. I had no idea. Despite a window that can carry my gaze to where the National Cathedral rises on the hill, I didn’t see the dimming light. Despite a city outside my door where I can walk for miles through parks and neighborhoods, I didn’t feel the creeping frost.
This ignorance is the price of determination.
I shouldn’t be proud of giving up my lunch hour. An earlier me would have tsk-tsked today’s me for misplacing priorities and neglecting health. For the four years I’ve held this job, lunch hour meant walking, no matter the weather. My credenza drawer hides an iPod, running clothes, both sunhat and umbrella, both towel and soap (you never know). These feet memorized miles of concrete. Co-workers praised my dedication to fitness.
Truth is, lunch hour walks were my secret recipe for sanity.
All that walking was a way of holding on to my center while the world rushed and tilted around me. It’s easier to sprint across the wire, especially if you don’t look down. First was our imploding family and livelihood, then moving here, then divorce, then working and all that comes with doing that as a single mom trying to establish a home and a way forward. A leaden fear of financial and familial ruin saturated every moment. So I kept moving, walking, and peering anywhere but right here.
Meanwhile, something changed. Like that weather rolling in when I was facing the other way, the very world shifted into a new alignment.
The daily work — the professional this-and-that of making ends meet — began to propagate. Seeds I didn’t know had been germinating started to push through the surface.
Lunch hour used to be for air and breath and body. It was a standing date with my very own self.
Now lunch hour is for asking the next question.
(Which question, you ask? That one. The one dancing just out of reach. The one that barely has a shape yet.)
An opportunity emerged during a team meeting. My department needed someone to teach. I resisted until my Mister reminded me that I do, in fact, have most of what it takes and the resourcefulness to go find the stuff I don’t. So I agreed to it, and it ate up all my time, and I was exhausted, and the extra pay didn’t even begin to cover the hours committed.
I loved it, loved the exchange of ideas, loved making it up as we went.
Before the final class, an opportunity popped up on my voicemail. This one was even more impossible than the last. In a windowless classroom with a sputtering overhead projector — the kind that uses actual transparencies — someone had to guide the learning of 27 visiting faculty who could barely speak English.
With guidance from the dear ones, I agreed to it, and it ate up all my time, and I was exhausted, and the extra pay didn’t even begin to cover the hours committed.
I loved it, loved the students, loved the tangled and unmapped journey.
Before the final class, another opportunity strolled into my office. This was a role supporting our school’s search for a new dean. It would be a politically delicate, thankless, administrative nightmare on an accelerated timeline. I considered it, negotiating right up front with the school leadership while doing so.
I took it, or rather, it took me: It eats up all my time, and I’m exhausted, and the extra pay doesn’t even begin to cover the hours committed.
And I love it, insanity and all.
Something is growing here.
Maybe it’s just a calcification of the soul-jarring careerism that infects the Washington DC region. Maybe I’m turning into yet another stressed and stretched professional Director of (Insert Abstract Administrative Jargon Here) who’s just wearing the same grooves a little deeper into the city sidewalks.
Or maybe it’s the Powers That Be taking advantage of a semi-competent masochist with something to prove.
Secretly, though, I think it’s something else.
Whatever it is, it’s growing right here, in the place this woman inhabits.
Despite all my foolishness and self-inflicted handicaps, novel ways emerge to apply the skills I’ve been accumulating. Even though the tough spots make my head throb and my heart race, it’s thrilling to come upon a problem I simply cannot solve, yet I must solve it, and I somehow know I will solve it, even if it comes to jury-rigging a fix.
Every time I figure out some new mix of tools and techniques, new places to apply them appear. The marvel of this chapter in my too-much-of-a-life is that I keep bumbling into the outer limit of my talents and capabilities, only to find that it’s a membrane and I can push right through.
For the first time in years, I have more in my sights than just getting through the day upright.
Now I want to know what these hands can really do.
Lunch hour is a standing date with possibility.
Lunch hour is one more wide-open chance to ask the next question.
(What are the Things I Can?)
Where the unknown is unnamed, give it voice.
Where answers are missing, reach.
4 thoughts on “9. Things I Can Forgo: Lunch”
This is very inspiring. It turns the whole notion of office lunch hours on its head in a way I never would have expected. Somehow, I was ready to hear this. Congratulations for taking all those leaps and chances and opportunities!
Thanks! I’m not sure how long this will last, though. It’s sure easier to stay in and work when it’s sleeting and February. I suspect that the real lesson here is about establishing the habit of tackling the tough tasks rather than procrastinating, which is useful in many other parts of the day.
Quite true. Somewhat related, I have to say that every time I pass the coffee shop and say “no, I will not go in and spend money,” I thank you.
Hey, we’ve got to look out for each other. 7-11 sure isn’t going to.